I admit, at one time in my life I had Little Miss Perfect Syndrome, okay, so I gave it that name, but it's true, I had issues. I don't know when it started, but at some point in my childhood, I must have decided that I didn't like getting embarrassed, messing up, or not being the best. Sounds pretty normal, right? I took it to the extreme, I somehow decided that perfection was possible, or should I say, convincing people of my perfection was possible, I would always know the truth. So, I set down this road of pleasing people and making myself look good. I was a great student, I actually loved school, so making wonderful grades worked out well. Plus, I was a pretty good kid, so the obedience factor wasn't too terribly hard. The difficult part was always being okay, and how to handle things that I wasn't so good at. If I was upset, I would typically act like it was no big deal, and then go to my room and cry alone. I never played sports, because, well I am not athletic at all, and I didn't want to look bad, so I just steered away. Now, I know that sounds sad, it's not really. I had a wonderful childhood with a ton of great memories, it was just a personality issue for me. I always wanted to be able to handle everything.
So, when did it change? I would say that occassionally I still show signs of wanting to look like I have it all together, but I think most people do that. The big change for me came when I had to learn Spanish. I don't know if you've noticed from all of my posts, but the year I spent in Nicaragua was probably my first, major life-changing year. That was the year that a lot of my pre-conceived ideas got messed up, that was the year that I decided more of what I wanted to do with my life, that was the year that I truly fell in love with other cultures and helping people, and that was the year that my world was majorly shaken. So, it only fits that my perfection complex got destroyed as well.
Remember me saying that I didn't like to mess up? Well, I would say that it is pretty much impossible to try to learn a new language without messing up. When I first moved to Nicaragua, a friend of mine went with me. We were together constantly, no joke, we were NEVER alone. Well, she spoke Spanish, and so, I never did, I didn't want to look bad, so, I would have her translate for me ALL THE TIME, day in and day out. Now, I have had to translate for people before and it can be tiring, so I imagine she got tired of it, so one day, she told me that she wasn't translating for me anymore. WHAT?! I could not speak Spanish, how was I supposed to communicate? That was awful! I was so mad at her, but it actually turned out to be one of the best things. So, what did I have to do? Learn. Well, I began studying a lot, but then I had to speak to people. Boy did I mess up. I remember one day trying to tell the lady we lived with that we needed soap in the bathroom. So I told her that we needed sopa. I had heard the word sopa before so, surely that meant soap. She looked at me with a strange look and said, "What?" So I say sopa and start making the hand motions like I am washing my hands. While laughing, she brings me a bar of soap, and points out to me that sopa means SOUP! I was so embarrassed! But, that was just the first of about 500 million little mistakes that I made.
I just had to learn to get over my pride. I made mistakes all the time, and guess what? The people still loved me! It actually drew me closer to them, because I could just be real, bad Spanish and all, and they felt free to try out their English with me, they saw me as approachable, and genuine as opposed to haughty and arrogant.
What's the moral of the story? Well, if I would have been so busy trying to make myself look perfect, I would never had learned Spanish, would not have been nearly as effective, would not have made the friendships that I did, and I would still think that sopa means soap.
Have you ever met those people that seem to have it all together? Go ahead and admit that it annoys you... it does me. Sometimes I even get intimidated by them. But, then I remember, that I can just be me, with ALL my MANY imperfections, and that I will likely be able to help more people, have more fun, and I will definitely be able to LAUGH a whole lot more! I must have taken it to the complete other extreme, because I am now content to be incredibly goofy, nerdy and well, completely imperfect. So, just be you, and smile! You are wonderful, just the way you are! Enjoy every minute of it!